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Oct. 17th, 2014 @ 10:14 pm Gah, annoyed!
So I was talking to someone today (who shall remain nameless to protect her own identity), and I mentioned my French pen pal. No big deal. I've had this pen pal for 3 years or so, and she's a really lovely person. (I call her a pen pal because we do emails from time to time and the occasional thoughtful gift.)

Other person asks me if she's a lesbian.

Um... what?

There is so much wrong with that line of thinking.

She actually wanted to know if she was like another person who "likes women," and she wasn't meaning this as a compliment in either case.

So what is it? Is it that all women I meet online have to be in to other women? Who are you commenting about? Me or my mystery female friends?

I think she's seriously mixing up her fears. You all know the old predatory lesbian cliche. Plus, add the internet is full of perverts, and she gets... Every woman online must be a lesbian.

I've been fuming about this all evening. I just can't with the stupid.
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From:mummakook
Date:October 18th, 2014 06:03 am (UTC)
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Yeah, I can understand that annoyance. I think if someone had asked me that I'd have said ans so what if she is. Are people really so shallow that everything has to be about sex these days? I'm sure there's some sort of fear, jealousy or something behind that line of questioning. Just weird.
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From:aikakone
Date:October 20th, 2014 05:16 pm (UTC)
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It was weird, and I let it annoy me the rest of the weekend. I didn't write in full depth just how odd it was. It think it was the sum of this person's fears and ignorance. Also, I think it more telling about her that her mind automatically went to "Lesbians!" as a first recourse.

Oh, and PS: Thanks for noticing and commenting. :)

Edited at 2014-10-20 05:17 pm (UTC)
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From:kagomeshuko
Date:October 27th, 2014 02:55 am (UTC)
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That makes no sense. French and female . . . so what? Um . . . that's all that tells me - French and female. And, who cares if she's a lesbian, anyway? Why care?